Identity & Relationships Part 3: Forming the Right Identity
1 John 3:1-2 (NIV) See what great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! And that is what we are . . . . We are children of God, and what we will be has not yet been made known. But we know that when Christ appears, we shall be like him, for we shall see him as he is.
There are four main building blocks of identity:
1. Feeling loved.
When a person feels loved they learn, grow and their behavior flourishes. When one does not feel loved their learning and behavior suffers.
1 John 4:7-8 (NIV) Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love.
I will feel loved when I know God.
Build a relationship with Jesus. The closer you get to God, the faster identity is restored.
2. Joy and laughter.
Laughter is needed to cope with life’s disappointments.
Psalm 2:1-4 (GNT) Why do the nations plan rebellion? Why do people make their useless plots? Their kings revolt, their rulers plot together against the Lord . . . . From his throne in heaven the Lord laughs and mocks their feeble plans.
Ephesians 2:6 (NIV) God raised us up with Christ and seated us with him in the heavenly realms in Christ Jesus.
I will have joy when I understand my position in Christ.
The more you understand who God says you are, the more joy you will have in life.
You need to know what you were created for.
Jeremiah 29:11 (NIV) For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
You are not a mistake! Slime + time + chance is not what created you. You were created by God on purpose. You are not an accident.
2 Timothy 1:9 (NKJV) [God] has saved us and called us with a holy calling, not according to our works, but according to His own purpose and grace which was given to us in Christ Jesus before time began.
I will find purpose when I know God’s calling on my life.
4. A sense of belonging.
Whatever God has called you to do, He did not call you to do it alone. This is why a church family is so important.
1 Peter 4:8-10 (CW) Above everything else, love each other genuinely. Love for your brothers and sisters in the faith covers many sins. Continue to practice hospitality. Open your homes to each other without grumbling. Do it willingly and happily. Each of you has received some of God’s gifts, so use those gifts to help others like good stewards, administering God’s grace in its various forms.
Psalm 68:5-6 (TPT) To the fatherless he is a father. To the widow he is a champion friend. To the lonely he makes them part of a family. To the prisoners he leads into prosperity until they sing for joy. This is our Holy God in his Holy Place! But for the rebels there is heartache and despair.
I will have a sense of belonging when I plug-in to my church.